Have you hidden it at times?
The fact that you don’t bounce checks, let laundry mold in the washer, or ask your husband to pick up pizza on his way home because you neglected to plan for dinner again?
It seems that homemaking is one of those things we Christian ladies are supposed to truly excel in, but not admit when we do. We are encouraged to do our best for the LORD, but be very humble about our constant success. No high fives for keeping the dishes done. No “woot woot’s” for consistently managing our time well. And no congratulatory pats on the back for remaining undistracted day after day.
If anything our good works are met with sighs or sarcasm.
Even in the blogsphere, posts are often more about encouraging the discouraged and teaching beginning skills. (All needed). But what about the ladies who excel in homemaking, as a general rule?
There aren’t many posts like that, simply because we focus on the failing aspects of homemaking more often than not.
Today I recognize (and applaud) the ladies that excel in homemaking. Because just as humility is a righteous quality, so too is excellence. Virtue and diligence are just as worthy an endeavor as is a lack of unbiblical pride.
Are you an excellent homemaker? Let that light shine! Titus 2 ladies don’t downplay the fact that they know how to run a home.”
Now, as to not discourage those who feel like they are in over their head, I’m going to provide a general list of what excellent homemakers do and don’t on a regular basis. If you’re thriving at home, this should encourage you to keep on. If you are struggling at home, I hope seeing what diligent homemakers do and don’t will give you a place to start.
Women Who Excel at Homemaking Don’t:
- Search frantically for misplaced items
- Get embarrassed by unexpected company
- Commonly yell at their kids
- Ignore or manipulate their husbands
- Let laziness dictate their actions
- Let the internet, smart phones or frustration distract them
- Let the housework go because they don’t feel like doing it
Excellent Christian Homemakers Do:
- Have a routine
- Keep a budget (even if it’s not written down)
- Have a commitment to training their children
- Practice patience and understanding
- Stick to a bed time
- Have a desire to learn
- Have a plan
- Have a deep faith in the LORD
- Have a certain amount of support
Do you excel in homemaking? Don’t hide it. Share it! Teach it! Encourage those around you who struggle, how will they improve otherwise? This need not turn into a prideful gloating, God forbid, but as an excellent homemaker, you must continue in good works, knowing you are honoring the LORD. And you must teach the younger generation these worthy skills.
Do you feel as though your failing in homemaking? Read over the “Do” list again. Implement one each week or even each month. Create a new habit with excellence in mind.
Don’t strive for mediocre or “good enough.”
Strive for excellence and consistency.
You can do all things through Christ Who strengthens you.
I love your posts.
I identified myself with both lists! When I had my last three children within two years and my health was not well I started “failing”, you could say. But I used to be thriving in it before.
It’s been a difficult time in my life but I keep bringing my head up and trying to thrive even when I don’t think that I can. I ask for the Lord’s strength every day, just about every hour some days. It’s not easy, that’s for sure. And I do get frustrated at times. Right now, I am thankful to be alive and to be here for my children. I’m also praying for complete healing, and strength. My desire is to live to serve Him by doing what He has called me to.
Blessings to you, had missed ya!
I’m sure many of us can see ourselves in both lists at some time or other in our lives. I pray to for His strength for each of us and for our health as well. Blessings!
Like Gabrielle, I see myself in both lists! So this post was a good pat on the back but also an “ouch” better get to work on that. 🙂 I have a six week old (baby #6 for us) and I have never been good about getting my babies on a nursing/sleep schedule. Do you have any advice as to how to accomplish this so that I can more readily tend to my other children and get us back into a good routine? Thanks!
Gosh, I can’t offer much advice on a nursing schedule. I nursed on demand, as they say. Looking back though, life would have been a bit more predictable had they been on a nursing/sleeping schedule.
Now, once they got to be about 6 months old, a sleep pattern had emerged and I stuck with it. Typically my babies took a morning nap, I would nap with them and the younger children in the afternoon, and baby would sleep again in the evening (usually right before dinner) …depending on their age. I could come to count on that some.
As with most things, it’s about consistency. We moms have to be able (and willing 😉 ) to notice when our little ones are tired and need a nap. It usually happens about the same time each day (although 6 weeks is a little young yet for consistent sleep patterns) and if we go with those natural patterns, it really is easier to get them into those sleeping habits/schedules 🙂
Thanks for your advice Jennifer! With each baby I am more determined to figure this whole sleep thing out but then reality hits with more little ones to take care of and I fall back to nursing on demand and just “surviving” the newborn stage. 🙂 You are so right, they do naturally fall into a consistent pattern after a few months. Thanks again for the response!
You’re welcome! The sweet newborn stage… it goes by so so fast. Enjoy those baby days Emily 🙂
As a doula I urge my clients to not expect homemaking out of themselves AT ALL for the first six weeks, and to be very realistic and gentle in their goals for the first YEAR. Looking at all traditional cultures including Old Testament Law, moms have always been told to rest– to the point of not letting their feet touch the ground in many cultures– for the period when their babies are tiny and their bodies need to recover. This is a time to have many others help you keep your house, care for your older children, etc. The best nursing advice I can offer is to learn hunger cues and tired cues and offer the breast at the first sign, make sure your latch is good, and let baby get full meals. Don’t try to force a schedule; you will settle into a flexible routine that will adapt as baby grows.
I love the verse “He shall lead His flock like a Shepherd… He **gently** leads those that are with young.” (Isaiah 40).
Please be gentle with your postpartum body. It will take a full year for it to heal and hormones to regulate. Forcing baby to sleep or eat on a schedule isn’t the answer– having plenty of support for YOU is! (A good lactation consultant will make sure baby is transferring plenty of milk and that is key to a normal healthy routine. Check for tongue ties!!)
Kym E. says
I recently posted on my blog about how I’m trying to grow and get to a point where I’m not a yeller. What are some of your suggestions to get pass the being aggravated with not being heard to calm enough to keep your head?
I wanted to respond, but may use what I say here for a post soon too…
So, how to quit yelling? Like everything else, it’s a choice. How to get past being aggravated to being calm…again choice. Most moms don’t yell at their kids in front of others, even when they feel the same emotions that usually cause them to yell. Why not? Choice. Fear of what others think. So, if we can keep our cool at Walmart, why not at home?
Or another way to look at it. Think back to when they were newborns. You were in love with that baby. Would you have yelled at him/her at 3 hours old? Rekindle those new mom feelings, look at your children the way you did moments after birth. When you’re feeling aggravated and you look at them, remember him/her as a newborn… It makes a difference. <3
Kym E. says
You are so right. Today, I have not yelled at any of my children because I chose not to. I made it a point that I was not going to. I did get tested by my youngest son and had to give a punishment, but I made it! I pray that I remember to make this choice daily. Thank you for your response, and I’m glad that you writing.
That is wonderful!! I’m so happy for you!
You’ll definitely be tested in that area, for sure. I pray you remember too, and pray that the LORD continues to give you grace to not yell. Weary not it well doing! 😀
Thank you so much for writing on this topic. It can be so discouraging at times, as it seems more acceptable to tell people how you are failing at homemaking instead of excelling. It is not just about the physical look of your home, but the peace you feel inside, knowing you are doing your work as if the Lord were knocking at your front door,
Sure, we must not gloat but let us show our faithfulness to the Lord, He is a God of orderliness.
We all have the ability to obey the Lord, it may be more difficult for some, but we have all been given self control, if we learned to start using it more we would have time to excel at the most important work the Lord has given us here on earth.
Amanda Mahle says
Hello I love your posts they are an encouragement to me. I did not grow up in a Christian home or have an example like this and I thank you for your encouragement. I am a stay at home mom of 7. I ordered and watched your 101 video some time ago with my daughters and enjoyed it. I can’t seem to order the 201. Is there a way I can order that or is it no longer available. Thanks so much. God bless. Amanda.
Jill. R says
When you say, have a routine, can you give me an example? Like what does your typical day and typical week look like? My mom was NOT tidy and it has been an uphill battle learning how to take care of the house. I work full-time, but will be staying home full-time in a few months, god-willing, and I feel like it is all I can do to keep the house from falling apart let alone having it look GOOD!!! Sorry if this seems like a stupid question, but it is hard to do what you have never seen.
What is your advice for women who are struggling with health issues? I used to be so energetic and truly enjoyed housekeeping and playing with my children and now I have medical issues that cause constant pain and fatigue. I have prayed non-stop as my condition has worsened and am doing my best but sometimes I just cant do the things that I want to do and feel like a failure when I just physically can’t do the things I used to do.