“In Thee, O LORD, I trust: let me never be ashamed.” Psalm 71:1
Wondering about remaining a homemaker if your husband is unemployed and can’t find work? Many struggle with doubts about what they are doing as a homemaker, during financial troubles. Is this a time when “all hands on deck” are needed? Should the wife go out and work if the husband is unemployed?
“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the LORD. Isaiah 55:8 The temptation to find a job may be strong, however we are still required to live by His ways which are clearly spelled out in His word, that declares:
“Therefore, I want younger women to marry, have children, manage their households, and give the adversary no opportunity to accuse us.” 1 Timothy 5:14
Christian, married women who have chosen to not manage the home, (by not staying in the home) are disobeying God’s word and giving the enemy the opportunity to find fault, and to discredit the LORD and His people. In situations of trial and financial distress, it is even more important to remain in our roles as homemaker, to ease the burden for our husbands.
We must cry out to the LORD who hears us. “My voice came to God, when I cried: my voice came to God; and He heard me.” Psalm 77:1
Fifteen years ago my husband was out of work for months. There wasn’t a day that went by when the phone didn’t ring with someone asking when we planned to send in a payment. We had a new baby, plus several other children at the time. It never crossed our mind that I should be the one to work. Instead we daily prayed that the LORD would deliver us and daily encouraged my husband through that difficult trial.
Be encouraged to stay faithful to what God has asked of you as wife and mother. Focus your energies on home. It truly is imperative to hold to our roles as homemaker, we must encourage our husbands to continue to look for work, and continue to plead with the LORD for a way for our husband to provide for his family.
There may be ways that a wife can contribute to the family income, and while it is tempting to offer ideas, I feel that the better option is to inspire you to greatly use this time to be your husband’s help meet, to build him up, to pray, pray, pray for him and with him.
Here are some practical ideas:
- Plan economical meals. Oatmeal, rice and beans can go a long way for just a little bit of money.
- Make fewer trips to town. For example, go shopping on your way home from church, as opposed to making a special trip.
- Make sure to praise the LORD through the hard times too, especially in front of your children.
- And ask for help. Go to those in your church, let them know of your needs. Christians are blessed to give to others, but most the time we don’t even know when those in our own church family are struggling financially. My husband even suggested that often there are other men in church that may be looking to hire someone for some particular job, and your husband may be just the guy he needs! Never know if you don’t ask!
And lastly, be of good courage!! The LORD sees, He hears and He is working something in your life.
“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28