“I don’t know how to structure my day. I was never taught this growing up. What am I supposed to do all day?”
I’ve got some ideas on where you can start. You’ll need some sort of schedule or routine. Ask your husband what his priorities are for your day, for you and the children. Write out a vision, your vision for your family and home. You need to know where you’re going in your homemaking endeavors. “If you aim for nothing, you’ll hit it every time.”
If you’re especially struggling, here is a list of tasks homemakers should be doing on a regular basis. Please read through it all, there may be something here you’ve not thought of before.
A homemaker should daily:
- Pray with her children
- Pray for her husband and children
- Read the Bible, even if it’s just one chapter and even if it’s to the kids (a busy mom with lots of little ones doesn’t always have time alone)
- Wash dishes
- Wash, dry and put away laundry (1-5 loads a day depending on your families needs)
- Get dressed!
- Get the children cleaned up and dressed each morning
- Sweep the floors
- Wipe kitchen counters
- Keep the bathroom picked up
- Play with her children
- Make time for her husband
- Prepare meals
- Eat with her family
- Clean the table after each meal
- Teach her children
- Train her children
This is enough to keep any of us occupied throughout the day. Homemaking is clearly a full-time calling, but one that some may not want to reduce to a list of “chores” like the one above. I created it to offer ideas, not to weigh you down. Lists are good and effective, but love needs to cover all the activities we do each day.
Scheduling is one way to accomplish daily chores and family activities. If that word scares you though, try a routine. Routines are much more flexible. For example, instead of scheduling your day in 15-30 minute increments, you can develop a routine. I have used schedules in the past and benefited from such a system, but the dynamics of life have changed and our family works better on routines right now.
Here was our family’s routine several years ago:
By 9:00 am:
- The children and I get cleaned up and dressed for the day
- Make and prepare breakfast
- Reading with Dad
- Morning chores (feed animals, empty dishwasher, fix breakfast, etc.)
- Clean up after breakfast
- 30 minutes in the garden
Between 9:00 and 12:00 pm
- School work
From 12:00 to 3:00 pm
- Lunch (prepare, eat and clean up)
- Afternoon chores
- Bible reading
- More school work
- Naps for the younger children
From 3:00 to 5:00 pm
- Yard work/our weekly chore
- Free/play time
From 5:00 to Bedtime
- Dinner (prepare, eat and clean up)
- Kids ready for bed (baths, etc.)
- Family Bible study
- Younger children go to bed
- Time with the older children and my husband
You can see how a routine will still encourage you to get quite a bit of work accomplished each day but is much less demanding than a schedule. But like I said, we have been very blessed by using schedules in the past. You’re the manager in your home and must choose what works best for your household.
If you need more guidance in this area, join the waiting list for the Elements of Christian Homemaking course. Enrollment opens April 15, 2018.
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Thank you for this! At this stage in life, due to circumstances beyond my control, my husband is not currently with me and the littles (he can’t be, but wants to be) we are living with a family of 10 and everything is hectic and chaotic. I like how you planned your routine! It me a wonderful starting point for at least my 6! Thank you!
You’re welcome Beccy!
That is a hard place to be. My husband worked out of state for a while and I know how it changes everything at home. I’m glad this was helpful for you!
It’s really very difficult in this full of activity life to listen news on TV, therefore I just use the web for
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This is kind of ridiculous.
It’s basic. If it’s not for you, don’t comment.
Is this from the year 1821?
Not at all. I believe I wrote this post in 2017 or so. <3 🙂
Thank you for trusting God for your calling and knowing how special beautiful and significant being a full time Homemaker, Home manager or Domestic Engineer is. Although it’s looked down upon in some circles I have discovered some of those same people have a different prospective now that we’re approaching the empty nesters stage. I learned and now clearly understand due to circumstances or personal choice not everyone desires to be a full time Homemakers, Household manager or Domestic Engineer however for those who do or did choose to do it……hats off to you! Be blessed ❣️
There’s a very important missing answer here to the question of “what am I supposed to do all day?”: Be a PERSON!
If you don’t have littles at home, then housekeeping is NOT a full-time job. It’s not supposed to be. Doing the dishes & and laundry, cooking dinner, etc. are not our ultimate purpose in life; they’re means to an end. If you can take care of the necessary maintenance tasks in a small part of the day (which is likely when you don’t have a houseful of kids), then there’s lots of time left for other parts of living.
Study your Bible. Pray. Learn something new. Volunteer somewhere or do some part-time work/build a business. Help frazzled mamas who have more work than day during their current season of life. Spend time with other people, building relationships. Be creative.