As we look today at the foolish woman and how to identify her, please know it is my intention that I encourage you to good works. Don’t let this post discourage you. Writing it has convicted me in certain areas and given me the renewed desire to do better, all to the glory of God. We are on the narrow path, and it can be a painful road sometimes. But as children of the Most High, we shall overcome. God’s Word has so much to say to us on the subject of foolishness. More than I had originally thought.
Comparing these two women, the wise and the foolish, has proved to be quite informative and sanctifying for me. I pray it will be for you too.
How To Identify a Foolish Woman
You can place her by observing her:
- Bank statements
The Husband of a Foolish Woman
Proverbs 12:4 is the verse of verses when looking at the foolish woman and her husband.
A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
What does it mean to “maketh ashamed?” This is a woman who wastes her husband’s substance through her indiscretion and extravagance.
Gill’s exposition says: “…makes her husband ashamed…by her negligence and slothfulness…; she is as rottenness in his bones; a constant grief to his mind, a pressure upon his spirits, a wasting of his body, and a consumption of his estate.”
Pulpit commentary: “..one who is a terrible contrast to the woman of strong character – weak, indolent, immodest, wasteful.”
Her husband is lacking in many areas. He doesn’t trust her with the simplest of duties. He will never know what to find when he returns home each evening. The foolish wife scolds and rebukes him. She complains to her mother, his mother, and her friends about his shortcomings.
She can never seem to overlook the dirty socks on the floor or the days he works late. He is a grieved man, aloof, disinterested, and unforgiven. While he pays little attention to her flaws, she brings his up often and makes it a source of contention. She demands that he lead, then tells him how to do it.
The Children of a Foolish Woman
“The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.” Proverbs 29:15
The foolish woman’s children are often neglected, left to themselves or some electronic device. Rather than train the children, she barks orders from the couch or her computer chair.
She allows her children to destroy household items or siblings’ toys and other belongings to keep from having to deal with bad behavior herself. She is lazy about parenting and lets the children do what they ought not, eat what they shouldn’t, say what is not proper, and befriend those with bad character all to keep extra work from herself.
The children are irreverent and disobedient, careless, and lazy with the entitlement attitude.
The Home of a Foolish Woman
“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” Proverbs 14:1
“I went by the field of the slothful, and by the vineyard of the man void of understanding; And, lo, it was all grown over with thorns, and nettles had covered the face thereof, and the stone wall thereof was broken down.” Proverbs 24:30-31
Her home is in constant disarray and utter chaos. Her yard is overgrown and unsightly. There is strife between her four walls. Therefore the home is tense guests visit.
Garbage is everywhere and chores are left undone for weeks at a time. The only time she cleans are the days before she has company coming. Little is maintained. Little is cared for.
The Finances of a Foolish Woman
“It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. There is treasure to be desired and oil in the dwelling of the wise; but a foolish man spendeth it up.” Proverbs 21:19-20
The details of a foolish woman’s finances show bounced checks, late fees, and overdraft charges more often than not. She spends more than her husband earns and never saves a dime. She never knows where her family stands financially.
The foolish woman impulse buys and neglects any sort of planning. Not understanding the principle of buying in bulk or comparison shopping, she fails to purchase needed items ahead of time thereby spending more on seasonal items at the last minute.
She may fall prey to get rich quick schemes or putting money into opportunities she has not researched, losing hundreds or thousands of dollars.
The Activities of a Foolish Woman
“A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished.” Proverbs 22:3 (Simple is a synonym for foolish)
“Then the kingdom of heaven shall be compared to ten maidens who took their lamps and went to meet the bridegroom. Five of them were foolish, and five were wise. For when the foolish took their lamps, they took no oil with them…” (Matthew 25).
A foolish woman lives for the moment. She has no regard for time management. She is inconsistent and careless. This type of a woman makes excuses is defensive.
She wasn’t taught the basics of running a home or raising children and has no desire to learn so chooses to stay at her current level of incompetence. Her tongue is full of gossip, backbiting, complaints, and negativity.
Proverbs 7:11 says of the foolish woman, “She is loud and stubborn, her feet abide not in her house.”
The Appearance of a Foolish Woman
And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart. Proverbs 7:10
The foolish woman of today may be dressed as a harlot or a slob. Often, she will be extreme in this area. She will pay an excessive amount of attention to her appearance, or ignore it altogether. She will wrongly believe her appearance is everything or doesn’t matter at all.
The Behavior of a Foolish Woman
Foolish women are easily identified. In her heart and conduct, she will be:
- Agitated and arrogant
- Conceited and cantankerous
- Discontent and disagreeable
- Foolish and flighty
- Gossipy and greedy
- Inconsiderate and irreverent
- Lazy and loud
- Negative and needy
- Rash and rude
- Stubborn and selfish
- Unsatisfied and unkind
Proverbs 20:3 tells us that, “It is an honor for a man to cease from strife: but every fool will be meddling.” The foolish woman meddles in others’ affairs and does not “hearken unto counsel” (Proverbs 12:15). She is a drain on others and her relationships are strained. She is not only not wise, she doesn’t even want to be.
“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.” Proverbs 1:7
Proverbs bursts with scripture about fools, and about the wise. Read through this book over the next few days. Ecclesiastes has a lot to divulge to us as well about foolishness and wisdom.
Ladies, as I finish up this post, I know it won’t sit well with some who read it. Some will be angry, some will be convicted and some will be discouraged, incredibly discouraged. The LORD calls us to good works, good works that He has set up for us from the foundation of the world. He has called us to live righteously in this present generation. We are to let His light shine and do good works that others may glorify Him.
I pray the LORD works in each of our hearts and lives to make us more like Him, so we may love our husbands, love our children and build our homes.