There is a lot of encouragement and information on hospitality, how to be a gracious hostess and the like, but I haven’t seen much if anything about being a good guest. With Thanksgiving being just a day away, this seemed like a good topic.
How To Be a Bad Guest
Sometimes looking at the antithesis, how to be a bad guest, is more productive than discussing the positive aspects of a subject. So here are some no-no’s when you visit in others homes.
- Don’t change your baby on the dining room table
- Don’t let your children go into private areas of the home unless invited
- Don’t not offer to help the hostess
- Don’t over offer either though
- Don’t clean up if she has asked you to leave it
- Don’t leave without offering to help pick up toys your children have played with
- Don’t overstay your welcome
How To Be A Good Guest
Now let’s look at the other side of it. What can you do to make the visit more pleasant?
- Do remove your shoes if asked
- Do ask her for the broom if she is washing dishes
- Do clean up messes from the meal your children make
- Do take your cues from the hostess
- Do ask to use her bathroom, etc. especially if you’ve not been in her home often
- Do bring her a hostess gift, a small token of appreciation (A box of her favorite tea, a candle in her favorite scent. Something less than $5)
- Do offer to bring a contribution for the meal
Sometimes just thinking beforehand how to behave as a guest in the homes of others can put you at ease if you’re feeling a bit nervous or unsure.
What else would you add to either of these lists?